Wednesday, June 13, 2018
Life, believe, is not a dream 
So dark as sages say;
Oft a little morning rain foretells a pleasant day...
 Photo via: Torrey Pines Beach; 6:45 AM; Saturday, June 9

I think of that little poem almost daily, as the morning San Diego skies are as gray and gloomy as can be during this time of year. I'm sure you've heard of it - May Gray and June Gloom - it's our "winter" here on the coast. Clouds roll in from the ocean and settle down right on the shore and beyond, casting out the sun and casting a cool, gray glow in its place. Some people love it, the little reprieve May and June offer from the constant San Diego sun. I'd take the bright sunshine every day, all day, all year long, but I do love how May Gray and June Gloom teach me some beautiful, beautiful things. EG --

That situations, circumstances, and people can change for the better. In fact change isn't a matter of "if" but "when." Around here the change happens at about noon. The clouds drift away and the sun shines in full. Which teaches me this --

Don't judge a person by their past, don't judge a life by its beginning, don't judge a San Diego day in June by its morning's gloom. Just because someone or something has been one way doesn't mean they have to stay that way. In fact, if you follow Mother Nature's example here, someone or something will start out one way, like being gray, and they will change from that way, to being sunny. Which gives me this --

Photo via: Torrey Pines State Beach; 3:45 PM; Saturday, June 9

I know how to be a good friend, but I haven't always been a good friend to my good friends. I'm characteristically terrible at answering phone calls and texts when they first come in. I'm notorious for then forgetting about my friends' outreach until it's been a while since they've called/texted. I used to be so embarrassed by my forgetfulness and rudeness in this arena that I'd essentially run from those calls and texts by just never calling or texting my friend back. Ever.

But gloom blows away and the sun comes out -- I've been changing my ways as a friend this year (it's one of my 2018 goals). I've been responsive. Much more respectfully responsive. Of course no one can answer every call and respond to every text ASAP. I'm still terrible at replying right away and notorious for forgetting about my friends' outreach. But. I am circling back and responding, no matter the amount of time that has passed, no matter how embarrassed I am about the amount of time that has passed. Changing has felt so good.


...Sometimes there are clouds of gloom,
But these are transient all;
If the shower will make the roses bloom,
O why lament its fall?
Rapdily, merrily,
Life's sunny hours flit by,
Gratefully, cheerily
Enjoy them as they fly!
What though Death at times steps in, 
And calls our Best away?
What though sorrow seems to win,
O'er hope, a heavy sway?
Yet Hope again elastic springs,
Unconquered, though she fell;
Still buoyant are her golden wings,
Still strong to bear us well.
Manfully, fearlessly,
The day of trial bear,
For gloriously, victoriously, 
Can courage quell despair! 

-- the brilliant Charlotte Bronte


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