THE FIRST SUMMER READS

Friday, June 7, 2013
One of my summer goals is to read at least eight books by August 31. Experience has taught me that reading does my brain and body good (ie, reading in bed at night puts me in the deepest sleep), so I'm up for this.

My first reads of the summer were these two: The Five Love Languages of Children & Rump: the True Story of Rumpelstiltskin.
The love language concept gives five, concrete ways to effectively communicate love in your relationships (this website gives the full run-down on it), and this short read teaches parents how to best communicate love to their children.

I majored in Marriage, Family, and Human Development at BYU (the major is now called "Family Life") so mothering aside, knowing "love languages" and how to speak them is right up my alley. AKA, understanding human behavior and how to improve it is something that thrills me.

While the book, of course, explains the five languages, my favorite part about it was learning where communicating love fits in the parent-child relationship, like in the contexts of how a child learns and disciplining...
One of the truest wishes of my heart as a mother is to discipline positively and effectively, and this read taught me at least two things to do to make that happen: 1) know how my children receive love, and then 2) be sure not to discipline them in their "language."

So if Olivia turns out to be a quality-time girl, then giving her an isolated, totally-removed-from-all-people time-out would be ineffective. She'll only feel punished that way, not disciplined (the book explains the difference between those two in a brilliant way). She'll feel unloved rather than treasured, and that'll just empty her "emotional love tank" further (cheesy phrase, true concept, also explained in the book).

Knowledge is empowering, especially in relationships, and this book teaches some gems that makes family bonds better. I highly recommend it to all

Backtracking to the why's of human behavior, Rump claims that a person's ultimate destiny is totally determined by their name...
So this book is all about why Rumpelstiltskin was named so and what it did (or did not do) for him. A quick read and a typically untold side of a classic fairytale, I really liked this book.

The whole name theme got me thinking as I finished it...what if your name really is indicative of your life's purpose?

I thought of the meaning of mine, Ryan, and Olivia's names, and if the theory is true then...

Ryan ("Little King") will one day be short and win a tennis tournament - the official king of the court.

I'm a tsunami in-the-making, a future doer of serious damage (Jeni --> Jennifer --> "White Wave").

Olivia is a bit o' peace (Olivia --> Olive --> "Peace"). That one I can see, although that girl and her lungs can be loud and anything but peaceful.

:)

Jokes aside, I think there could be some clout to that thought - that your name has an influence on who you are. Rump got me thinking about that big idea and one other, which is what I loved about the book most of all...books are wonders at bringing thinking to a real, genuine level.

Two good reads down, cheers to the six ahead! 

2 comments:

  1. I really have been want to read the Love Languages for Children, but have had the hardest time finding it. Where did you buy it?

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  2. My friend let me borrow it, actually, but here's a link to it on Amazon: http://www.amazon.com/The-5-Love-Languages-Children/dp/0802403476. Get it! It was enlightening :)

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